Time-in child development
Time-in and time-out are two popular disciplinary techniques by which parents try to educate their children in order to learn positive behaviors. While the time-out strategy, used as a punitive method for negative behavior of children, presents various gaps in its applicability and success, the time-in technique is a safer and more efficient variant in the long-term development of the child. !
In the time-out discipline, the child is placed in the corner or sent to his room, in a silence break, to calm down and to meditate on his actions. Although it is considered a positive method of discipline, it is not without repercussions in the long-term development of the child. The little one gets frustrated, because he has to inhibit his emotions, instead of expressing them and learning to control them.
How do you apply the time-in technique?
Time-in is a strategy that, unlike time-out, teaches parents to relate and get closer to the child while correcting their negative behaviors. It implies the constant presence of the parent and the relationship with the little one. The implementation of the time-in technique in the child's discipline requires a well-developed plan and a few simple steps to follow in applying it:
- establish the space - you have to stay alone in the room and stand in front of each other, possibly on two chairs;
- keep calm - it is very important to be calm before saying something you shouldn't; take 10 seconds to breathe deeply and to prepare yourself for this positive discipline technique that has the role of helping the child to calm down and control his impulses alone; (it does not react impulsively by screaming, gesturing or even punishing it quickly with a palm to the bottom or other inefficient and damaging penalties for its development);
- be focused on the child and his / her needs, ensuring the best environment to calm down, but also to identify the problems and causes that lead to negative behavior;
- be with the child; whatever happens, you must know that he can trust you;
- allow him to speak - as opposed to time-out, the time-in technique does not involve silence breaks - let him express himself freely, but in a calm and respectful tone, about whatever bothers him, but be careful. be the "conductor" of the discussion, so that you get to the causes of his negative behavior, and the conversation is productive in the disciplinary effort - immediate communication helps the child to freely express their lives, to control their impulses and to understand where they are wrong;
- at the end, teach him to repair his mistakes - the success of the technique is to get the child to resume or follow the instructions you initially asked for and refused or ignored; for example, if your reason for using the time-in technique was caused by a constant refusal of the child to turn off the computer to place order in the room, give him or her the opportunity to do things properly. , even if in the 12th hour.
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